Our connection with others is part of what keeps us going in this life. Even if you're an introvert like me, we all need connection of some sort, whether it's in the form of friendship, family, or romantic relationships. I often see disconnection happening through too much screen time or the fear of opening up to someone and getting hurt. There are many pitfalls we face in connecting with others, but take a second to think of the people you love the most... would you have it any other way? Isn't it worth it to love those people even though they could let you down and you could get hurt?
"Barrier" is a word I use often in life and in therapy. Barriers, walls, and armor, are things we put into place to seemingly protect ourselves, but in many situations, we are actually hurting ourselves. Think back to when you were a child and you got in trouble for lying or omitting the truth. Wouldn't it have just been easier to tell the truth in the first place? That's what barriers do to us as adults, they complicate things, they hurt others as well as ourselves. What would it be like to tear down those walls and really start showing our real selves, our real hearts, to the world?
In this day and age, it seems like everyone is plugged-in and more connected than ever before. Is it really true? Are the online connections we have really as strong and powerful as human-to-human contact? Are we connecting the way our souls crave? When was the last time you really looked someone in the eye and saw something deeper?
In our online presences, we like to put our best self forward, I’m certainly guilty of this- I once had someone tell me that they were jealous of my life solely because of the pictures I post on FB and Insta. What we usually don’t share are our troubles- or maybe you have shared some struggles online and haven’t gotten the support or response you wanted, so you put up a barrier to never do that again. Let’s focus on the supports we have in real life. Whether you have a strong family network, or your friends are your rocks, it doesn’t matter. Tell them you love them, you appreciate them, and keep breaking down those barriers to show them the real you!